Updated 02/07/2009 08:19 AM
Teenage Dating Violence Awareness Week
ST. LAWRENCE COUNTY, N.Y. -- Relationship abuse has no age limit and since teens typically lack dating experience, it can be easy for them to get involved with an abusive partner.
"I've seen a lot of students that think that really jealous behavior is appropriate and they think that this person loves me so much that they want to know where I am all the time, what I'm doing, they don't want me to be with anyone else but them. And after a while, what starts to happen is the girl starts to feel, or the boy, it could be either way, very controlled, claustrophobic and they don't know how to get out," said Wendy Falvey, a family and consumer science teacher.
And in many cases, they question whether or not they want to leave their partner.
Falvey said, "They really truly feel that this is the only person that's ever going to love them, this is the best they can do."
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As modern technology adds convenience to our everyday lives, it also makes it easier for abusers to control their victims. Because at any time, in any place, they're only a phone call or a text message away.
"There are methods on a cell phone that you can find out where your partner is at all times," said Ilene Burke, Director of the St. Lawrence Valley Renewal House.
Even if the abuse does not reach physical violence, the emotional impact can severely affect the victim.
"They're much more likely to get into another controlling relationship because that's what they're used to, they think that's the norm," said Falvey.
"Puts them at a higher risk for substance abuse, suicide, re-victimization as an adult even," said Burke.
Because many teens are unaware their relationship is abusive, it's critical that their parents and friends look out for warning signs and take action if they think someone is at risk. Even if the victim disagrees.
"You have to ask yourself, is it more important to keep them as a friend? Or more important to keep them safe?" said Falvey.
If you think one of your friends is at risk, Falvey and Burke recommend telling a trusted teacher or parent who can help.
For more information on Teen Dating Violence Awareness Week , visit www.opdv.state.ny.us.